The Money Talk – to Prevent Relationship Cardiac Arrest
April is National Financial Literacy Month and, thus, this week\’s column discusses something that needs to happen between committed couples before the number crunching begins: “The Money Talk.” Ideally, this talk should occur before you consider cohabiting, marriage, entering into a Civil Union, or having children. Why? Because money is one of the leading causes of relationship stress and is the bane of most family feuds in estate planning. So, if you and your honey can get this straight before you tie the knot or start playing with grandkids, then your relationship monitor will probably hum right along, at least with respect to finances. Ergo, make a “date,” collect your documents – which are alluded to below – and after a good meal and a nice walk, have a seat and start talking. The following issues and questions provide a good start: Credit score. Here’s what the agencies have to report. OK, so I’ve had a few bumps in the road. What’s your score? Net worth. This is what I earn; this is what I’ve saved; this is what I owe. What’s your net worth? Financial planning. These are my current financial obligations. What are yours? Family obligations. Once a month, quarter, or year, I give Aunt Sue a couple of hundred dollars to help her out. Do you assist any family members financially? Charitable giving and gifting in general. Annually, I give approximately $______ to these charities? What about you? For holiday and birthday gifts, I generally spend $______. What about you? But you don’t have to tell me how much you spend on me. Baby Planning. Build. Feed. Clothe. Shelter. Educate: $200,000 for 4-year college tuition is the current projection for the year 2030. \’Nuf said. Retirement planning. Presuming you’ve met with a financial advisor: This is what I’d like my retirement to look like and so this is what I’d like to have saved for retirement in 5 years, 10 years, 15… What do you want your retirement to look like and what are your plans? Of course, this is just a suggested list that should be toggled so it’s not always starting with you and could actually start off with something akin to, “I’ve been thinking about going on vacation, but I also am thinking about retiring or starting my own business…” How start The Money Talk is important because admitting one\’s financial boo-boos or bankruptcies is difficult; sometimes admitting that one is a trust fund baby who can probably feed the world three times over, build an international space station that would house China\’s population, and that you have more cars than GM built last year can also be scary. But what is most important is that you start. I know a couple who had it before marrying and still has it at least quarterly…
Second Marriages, Drunken Debauchery, & Children Left Behind
Often couples with no children think that they don’t need a will because their spouse will fulfill their wishes with respect to extended family. Sometimes it works; often it doesn’t. Though we can hope, we simply cannot predict what the future will hold for us or our loved ones, which is why planning is critical. Incapacity can strike in more ways than one leaving our extended family members or favorite charities empty: Gina and Lisle were in their second marriage. Gina was a widow when she and Lisle met. Her first husband was a generous man, with no extended family, so he left Gina the bulk of his estate. Lisle’s ex-wife retained a very good divorce attorney, so she ended up with nearly everything he owned, including the shirt off his back. Fortunately for Lisle, his ex found a wealthier second husband and Lisle was eventually able to buy a new shirt. Neither Gina nor Lisle had children but both had siblings and Gina had nieces and nephews who captured her heart. Lisle only had one brother, Jake, a scoundrel and leech, living off relatives and women who took pity on his substance abuse and inability to stay employed for longer than a couple of weeks.* One day, Lisle received a call from a hospital. Gina had been admitted after slipping and falling on an icy intersection crosswalk. She broke her ankle as a result of the fall. Lisle arrived at the hospital and the doctor told him that while treating Gina, they noticed she had an irregular heartbeat. They wanted to examine the cause and decided to keep Gina for a few days and run tests during that time. After running the tests, doctors determined that Gina had severe blockage but before the hospital could treat the blockage, Gina developed a bacterial infection. And this bacteria was very resistant. The bacteria was so resistant and Gina’s immune system so compromised by the blockage that she never recovered and died in the hospital. Gina left no will or trust but had a verbal understanding with Lisle that part of their combined estate was to go to Gina’s nieces and nephew to assist with their college education. However, as Lisle floundered in grief after Gina’s passing and became gravely ill himself a little more than a year after Gina\’s death, he fell victim to Jake’s undue influence and the nieces and nephews never got a dime. Sometimes it’s not your incapacity but the disability of others that may undermine your wishes if you haven’t a solid plan in place. *Whether he realizes it or not, Jake is incapacitated with respect to Illinois law, whose definition of incapacity includes, “because of gambling, idleness, debauchery or excessive use of intoxicants or drugs, so spends or wastes his or her estate as to expose the person with disability or dependents to want or suffering.”
5 Reasons Why the \”Permanent\” Exemption Matters to You
Many people probably know that Congress made permanent the Federal estate tax, which is $5 million, indexed for inflation, per person and $10 million per married couple. This means that approximately 98% of Americans will not have taxable estates on their deaths with respect to the government’s estate tax. A sigh of relief for many families could be heard across the land. However, folks shouldn\’t sigh too heavily because the same matters that existed before for individuals and families were not eliminated by Congress’s act. So the following are 5 issues that have nothing to do with the federal estate tax but are still very important to protecting yourself and your family: You have children. Even families with modest-sized estates should ensure that their children are cared for according to their wishes and values if a tragedy occurs. Minor and disabled children are of primary concern. I’ve written before that without a will that nominates a guardian, minor or disabled children may be placed with someone a parent would consider less than ideal. Beyond that, consider retirement proceeds. If a minor or even young adult child is the beneficiary on a retirement account, depending on the language of that account, Uncle Sam may still take a large bite or equally troubling, a relatively young adult may come into a large sum of money in one fell swoop. You aren\’t married BUT you are in a loving committed relationship with someone. So that means your significant other or partner, while being able to benefit from your lifetime exemption, cannot benefit from portability. Also, the same issue with respect to retirement proceeds as mentioned above also apply in this scenario. If your unmarried in the eyes of the federal or state government but you and your partner have a child, just bring the issues of number one right on down. You are a professional or small business (smallbiz) owner. Unfortunately, we Americans are a litigious bunch. If we believe we have suffered an injury related to professional services, e.g., doctor, lawyer, dentist, or a small business, then many of us have no problem pursuing litigation that will cost much more than the malpractice insurance covers. Estate taxes have little or nothing to do with covering your assets from multimillion dollar litigation. You have income producing assets. The federal government and many state governments tax beneficiaries on 2 levels: estate and income. If your daughter\’s trust has income producing assets, such as the 3-flat apartment building you gave her, then there is a likelihood that the trust will have to pay income tax. How much depends on how well your team works to protect you. Still, like number 3, this has nothing to do with estate taxes. You live in a \”decoupled\” state. Some states are \”coupled\” with the Federal estate tax regime, meaning their state\’s lifetime estate tax exemption is identical to the Federal government\’s. However 28 states are decoupled, and most of those states, unlike Illinois, have a significantly lower estate tax exemption amount. So that means that while estate tax may not be due to Uncle Sam, it may be due to Uncle Quinn – Illinois\’ governor, for example. Estate taxes were a primary focus of estate planning because no one likes paying taxes. Well, estate taxes are no longer a primary focus and those other issues still need to be considered, just like they did before December 31, 2012.
2 Very Important Ps in a Smallbiz Estate Plan
Knowing why and when to start succession planning (read here) allows us to move on and address the personal and professional practical considerations of succession planning. The first personal consideration can be assessed by thinking about the following questions: What do YOU want from your succession plan? Do you want your business to continue after you retire, to stop when you have sufficient income to retire, both – which would be similar to semi-retirement, or something else? The 4 basic personal goals surrounding succession planning are: (1) creating a legacy; (2) obtaining sufficient income to retire completely; (3) both – creating a legacy and semi-retirement; or (4) something else, perhaps creating a new career entirely. Once you’ve answered these questions, next you should consider another personal matter and how it aligns with the answer above. This helps define realistic objectives. This personal consideration involves your dependents: Who depends on you now? Who is likely to depend on you in the future? And what might that dependency look like? Being an emotional and psychological support weighs heavier than we often know. So, if this type of support isn’t managed well, it will drain our energy, time, and motivation. How we sustain this loving nature without harming ourselves will be discussed in another week or so, but let’s move on to look at other dependencies. Sometimes supporting someone financially is easier than providing emotional support; sometimes it is not. Perhaps you have or someone you know has family members who phone when the electric bill is too high, when the basement has flooded, or when the church needs a new roof? Perhaps you have a relative whose spouse or partner passed away leaving a minor child to be taken care of by a single parent? Often connected to emotional and financial dependency is physical dependency, typically accompanying caring for a disabled loved one. Your succession plan must account for of these factors and possibilities or your objectives may fall short and you or loved ones may suffer. Once completing this difficult work, we can address the less difficult matters – professional considerations. Last week’s digression, covers the first professional consideration, which is deciding your business’s legal entity, i.e., a LLC or S-Corp. In very limited situations, would one actually consider a sole proprietorship, partnership, or C-Corporation, so those entity choices weren’t discussed. Having decided on a legal entity, the next professional consideration is your market. Who is your market and how can you differentiate your business from your competitors? First just think about the people who may want or need your services or product, e.g., women with bird cages that need regular cleaning. But what if you’re already in business? One idea, for those who provide personal services, is to take the average age of your oldest and youngest client; next consider the source of your highest quality referrals who fit within that average; and then of those clients, what work did you find most enjoyable: talking to the birds, letting them fly around the house, or making their cages shiny? After creating this “niche,” the issue of differentiation remains, which requires performing a lot of research – the competition, customer demand, external variables, and more. After compiling your research, you should be able to determine how you can differentiate your business from your competitors. And yes, we’re still talking about succession planning because to create a winning succession plan, you have to create a winning business. And why is succession planning important to estate planning? If you\’re a smallbiz owner, what are you going to do with the business you once owned? A good estate plan will help answer that question. The Smallbiz Success Series: Decision 3 | Succeed Today | Personal & Practical Points | Relax & Retire
3 Tips on Succession Planning – Before Needing an Airbag
The previous article discussed succession planning formula for a more successful business today. This week I’ll briefly cover how succession planning helps improve retirement and more importantly, when that succession planning should begin. At its core, succession planning is about tomorrow, our “retirement.” And proper succession planning creates important retirement benefits. As an estate planner with a number of financial planning colleagues, I can attest to the fact that we may have several methods and vehicles to protect and grow your assets and with a proper succession plan, those options may increase dramatically. However, without a proper succession plan, the options could dramatically decrease. Added benefits to retirement include: Being able to withstand harsh bear markets; Having a more secure retirement because your plans are more realistic; Retiring more efficiently and with fewer adverse tax implications; and A Less stressful retirement, even if you experience 1 or 2 bumps in the road. Most importantly, a properly executed succession plan eliminates the need for a “garage sale.” So as I said previously, in addition to making more money, establishing and implementing a succession plan results in an even more successful business today and a relatively stable and peaceful retirement. Now, some of us have a good idea on when we would like to retire but there is an ideal time to start succession planning and that time is before opening your doors for business. If you incorporate succession planning when drafting your business plan, then you will ultimately use and allocate resources more efficiently and plan realistically. Moreover, you\’ll establish processes that are key to a successful business sale or shareholder transfer. You may also realize that the most important factor in executing a successful succession plan is having a well-developed successor. Sometimes, we don’t start actually planning at the beginning. Many of us just do and do and do without stopping and taking the time to think about where all this “doing” is leading. But even if you’re 10 years into your business with about 10-15 years to go, it’s not too late. You probably have some advantages, e.g., a steady clientele or a steady and established referral base; a solid understanding of the rules, regulations, and best practices applicable to your business; “brand equity” among your peers and in your community; staff, if you have them, who are loyal; and if you’re anal, like me, you have helpful processes and spreadsheets in place to get you through the day, week, month, year, and decade. Conversely, 10 years in you may have some disadvantages: too many processes, some of which are inefficient or redundant; and you could be stuck in a time warp working against yourself, treating yourself like an employee and your business like a job, instead of CEO and enterprise. New business owners even with great business plans are also disadvantaged because the business is…new. So mistakes are going to be made and newbiz owners won’t be able to plan for all of them. It is when the business shingle is rusty that folks should proceed quickly but with caution. At age 60-65, triage may be needed, but there\’s still hope. At 66 – 70, like Will Smith said in the movie, Independence Day, “I hope ya gotta an airbag!” And at 70 ½, I think land in Jamaica is reasonable. Knowing why and when to start succession planning, we can move on and discuss the personal and professional practical considerations..Next week! The Smallbiz Success Series: Decision 3 | Succeed Today | Personal & Practical Points | Relax & Retire
How to Create Value in Your Smallbiz Now
Recently, I spoke to a group of women business owners about succession planning. Some were in business for more than 15 years, others for 4-5 years, and others had just started. Because succession planning is an integral part of estate planning, over the next couple of months, I will share a few insights from that meeting for readers who are or who advise smallbiz owners. So, let’s get started… When considering succession planning, where WE are also our clients, we must ask ourselves 2 questions and answer realistically: (1) WHY are we planning and (2) WHEN is the best time to plan. We all know the obvious answer to why to make MORE MONEY for “retirement.” However, beyond making more money later, succession planning provides 2 ancillary benefits. One benefit is that it can provide a more successful business NOW; the second benefit is that “retirement” will not be chaotic. How does succession planning help your business now? As you begin succession planning, to ensure your plan’s success, you must shift your perspective from that of a “job holder” who happens to run the job to that of a CEO who runs a multi-faceted enterprise. This “multi-faceted enterprise” idea may seem a little wonky at first. But if you consider all the hats you wear during the week to accomplish all the functions needed to service your clients or customers, you’ll get the picture. With proper succession planning, even solo business owners eventually shift from doing everything to delegating non-critical components to others, freeing up time to address critical components, performing essential leadership functions, and doing some fun business activities, such as blogging, tweeting, or connecting in person. As you make this shift from job holder to CEO, finding personnel or appropriately using current personnel to perform non-critical client/customer functions, something else occurs to benefit your practice now and in the future: personnel morale increases and, consequently, personnel become more productive. By shifting our perspective, we become more conscientious when hiring, even interns or part-timers, and create more current value for our business. You will recognize – for the sake of your succession plan – the need to nurture, groom, and develop the talent. Today’s buzz word is mentoring. But these aren’t just mentees; these are individuals who work for you and who you want to continue working for you. As a solo or smallbiz, your talent development program may not be formal, but it should at least be a cognizable, supervisory, mentoring program with regular reviews and 30-60 minute “check-in” meetings. Now, you may wonder how you can afford to carve out this time in such a competitive environment like the one we’re in today. Frankly, that’s being short-sighted. Because if you’ve been mentored or supervised by an outstanding boss, then you can probably recall your morale lift and sense of pride you felt as you developed. You can also probably recall the converse, when you were treated like a minion, degraded, and dismissed. By providing personnel with meaningful tasks, constructive feedback, and respecting and giving them credit for their good ideas, we’re creating more productive personnel, thereby actually giving us more time to devote to VIP client and customer matters. This makes clients happier and happy clients are good referral sources. So this answers one of the “why\’s.” The next piece, will consider the other \”why.” Stay tuned… The Smallbiz Success Series: Decision 3 | Succeed Today | Personal & Practical Points | Relax & Retire
How Do I Love Thee? Let Me Count the 8 Articles
On Valentine’s Day it may seem off-kilter to some to read an article on death, but not here in the Shark Free Zone. The interesting truth about estate planning is that it can be a genuine measurement of how much someone loves you. If we consider the 8 basic articles that are found – or should be found – in wills, the evidence is undeniable. So, from a potential beneficiary’s perspective, hoping he or she is loved, let’s look: Article 1: Family. Love = your name is in this article. Article 2. Definitions. Love = your name is listed in the “partner” definition since you and the testator (person writing the will) are cohabiting, i.e., unmarried and un Civil Unionized, because Illinois doesn’t recognize in-state Domestic Partnerships or common law marriage. Article 3: Guardianship. Love = if you’re 14 years old (why are you reading this?), your parent or parents have named at least 2 other individuals to take care of you, just in case… Article 4: Debts, Taxes, Expenses. Love = The estate has sufficient funds to cover memorial services, credit card debt, taxes, and any other bona fide expenses that belonged to the dearly departed and not you. Article 5: Personal Property. Love = you get the Beatles White album, first edition. Article 6: Residuary Estate. Love = you get a whole lot more than the Beatles White album, first edition. Article 7: Personal Representative. Love = your name isn’t listed, so all you have to do is accept the Beatles White album, first edition and any other bequests; and you don’t have to worry about a greedy beneficiary trying to sue you for breach of fiduciary duty, such as not handing over the Beatles White album, first edition. Article 8: Disaster Awaits. Love = hoping this article isn’t triggered.
Popping the Question, Prenupts, and Powers of Attorney
Valentine’s Day is quickly approaching and thousands of individuals will be “popping the question” and getting the question popped at them. This is, at least what jewelers around the country have been spending all those advertising dollars on. It’s also what those individuals wanting to be “popped,” so to speak, are also hoping for, and my hopes are with you. In celebration of that bended knee, larger than life smile, and mother’s joyous tears, I offer a few points to ponder after the popping and before the party planning. The points are sobering but will help to provide years of “bubble and squeaky” happiness long after you’ve settled in with each other. If you’re not cohabiting, have “the money talk.” If you are living together and haven’t had the money talk, tsk..tsk… If you are cohabiting and have had it, good for you! and have the money talk again. If there is a large disparity of income or both of you are very affluent, consider a prenuptial agreement. It is commonplace in such scenarios so no one should feel offended if it is mentioned or requested. The basic rule is that both parties should retain their own attorneys to draft and review the document, which should be signed before the formal engagement celebration, if there is one. If you’re cohabiting obtain life insurance and powers of attorney. If you’re not living together but engaged, obtain these items before going on the honeymoon. If you’re on relatively equal financial footing economically and the families are smiling, when you return from the honeymoon, add a will to your estate plan. If even one close family member is frowning, turn that frown upside down by promising to leave him or her something in your will and then add an in terrorem clause. Better yet, have a trust prepared with a pour-over will attached and leave him or her whatever you like with or without the in terrorem clause. Love means planning a relationship founded on pragmatic principles as well as butterflies in the tummy.
4 Estate Planning Facts Everyone Should Know
1. You have an estate and a plan even if you’ve not done anything. The answer to how this is possible is found in the definition of “estate” and the law – at least for the state of Illinois. Your estate is everything you own – tangible and intangible. It includes retirement benefits, debts owed to you, your bicycle, your bodily tissues and organs, whatever may be in your bank accounts, and whatever remains of your coming paycheck after obligations are paid. Probate assets of those who die without a plan or a will in Illinois will be distributed according to the laws of intestacy per the Illinois Probate Act of 1975 as amended. Accordingly, debts, your bike, your bank accounts, and your paycheck will go to who the laws of intestacy and the court decides. So, regardless of what you possess and your actions, you have an estate plan. 2. Your estate plan, even the one you don\’t know about, is in effect during your lifetime. Documents you sign at medical and dental treatment facilities before being treated, and even some sporting events, typically involve you implicitly designating your “next of kin” to act on your behalf if you became incapacitated. Sometimes, this isn’t who you think it is. Since you’re going to sign these forms anyway, wouldn’t you rather make an actual decision before the dental cleaning? 3. Family and friends fight over stuff and the fight can become war. Love is love until death and then it becomes war. Folks will fight about could be grandma’s old cookie jar, gold coins, or memorial arrangements. Nevertheless, once a battle ensues, the only real winners are the litigators; they get most of the cookies. Considerations for this fact include: apathy for one\’s family; family harmony; good karma; and increasing the wealth of trial attorneys.* 4. The most important decision you can make in estate planning is not what to give away or who to give it to, but who will manage it or give it away for you. Even if you don’t interact with a certain individual regularly, they protect the cookie jar. These individuals, called “fiduciaries,” include personal bankers, financial planners and advisors, accountants, lawyers, trustees, agents under powers of attorney, guardians, and executors or personal representatives. A large part of guardianship and estate litigation involves the “breach of fiduciary duty,” where the fiduciary has dipped his or her hand into the cookie jar. Sometimes the fiduciary is a family member; sometimes a long-time, trusted friend and advisor; and sometimes not such a long-time friend but is still trusted. Thus, even if you’re not at the point of naming an executor, perhaps you should carefully consider who is going to step into your shoes and manage your finances if you become seriously ill or just go for an annual check-up; then designate someone…in writing. A thoughtful and appropriate designee may prevent abuse, breach, litigation, and possibly war. * Some of my dearest friends are trial attorneys.
The 5-Letter Word\’s Evil Twin
I often comment fervently about trusts, as any good estate planning attorney would, that is, talk a lot…about trusts. So, yes, if someone asks me how best to plan for their family and I learn that they have more than $100,000 in assets or that they’ve got other family members with bones to pick, I spell out the word T-R-U-S-T in as many ways as possible. “However folk,” in the words within a great Sinatra monologue, a trust just ain’t the answer to all of life’s woes. A few “folk” can tell you why: Tammy Lewis is being sued for $50,000. She owns a piece of property with her sister. The property value is $100,000. A revocable living trust came to Tammy’s mind when she found out about the judgment. And the thought should have made like the rabbit in the black hat and disappeared. Whether the property is held in joint tenancy or tenancy in common, Tammy’s interest in the property is attachable by a creditor. If held in a revocable living trust, the trust assets are still considered owned by the grantor (which could be Tammy), so there is no creditor or judgment protection for Tammy. Sean Davidson and his wife were happily married for 15 years. His wife worked for 9 years and then took time off to give birth, nourish and nurture the kids, volunteer with the PTA, and so forth. Initially, she worked a little from home but not much, ultimately deciding that being a full-time wife and mother at least until the youngest was in first grade was important. However, when Ms. Davidson worked, she and Sean contributed equal amounts financially to buy and help pay the mortgage on the $600,000 family residence. Now, Sean wants a divorce. He contacted an attorney to place the house held in joint tenancy with the soon to be former Ms. Davidson in a trust for Sean and Sean alone. The flow of this particular scenario would work something like this: House + Sean Davidson Revocable Living Trust + Divorce = Wife Awarded 50% of Marital Property (incl. part of the house) = Invalid Trust = Sean Sues Lawyer = Lawyer Pays and Is Possibly Disciplined Of course, other avenues exist to address some of these issues but the main point is if you owe a debt, you can’t hide from it with a trust. It’s called F-R-A-U-D. The names of individuals found within this blog are purely fictional, unless otherwise expressly stated.