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Our Readers\’ Top 5 Articles from 2013

Like most, The Shark Free Zone took a little time off to reflect over last year’s work and our readers’ preferences. So before the “reflection” month of January is over, below are the top 5 articles from 2013. Enjoy! NUMBER ONE. The popularity of our top article for 2013 may have had a little to do with its melodramatic title, “Infants, Stairwells, & Burning a Million Dollars.” The premise was less dramatic than the title, but still important: If professionals or smallbiz owners fail to protect their assets by not planning, they might as well set their income and belongings on fire. Of course, we’re not advocating arson, but if someone slips and falls on your property or a toddler visiting with Mom finds his or her way into a non-child-proof cabinet, oh woe… Click here to read the star of The Shark Free Zone for 2013 and feel free to pay it forward. TWO. \”What the Civil Union Means…to Many,\” was a spillover all the way back from 2011, providing useful information on LGBTQ couples considering or entering into Illinois Civil Unions. It\’s continued popularity was likely because it resonated with many concerned about the economic benefits that can be reaped when discrimination ends. It’s a somewhat moot now that Illinois has passed the Religious Freedom and Marriage Fairness Act, providing marriage equality to Illinois LGBTQ couples. However, the article has many relevant points, so you can read it here. Our article on marriage equality in Illinois is forthcoming, so stay tuned! THREE. Smack dab in the middle is our series, whose information, is rising to the top of the news charts as more statistics and reports are being shared daily about the large aging Baby Boomer population. We first mentioned the Baby Boomer issue, or “Silver Tsunami,” a few years ago. It is now abundantly clear to all advisors that almost everyone is or will be affected by the Boomer generation, especially families that are unprepared. Don’t get caught by the Boomer wave. Prepare for the Silver Tsunami by checking out this middle entree. FOUR. Fourth in last year’s popular articles again involved marriage equality, particularly DOMA’s undoing. Our series, “The IRS Takes a Bite Out of DOMA” highlighted the complex estate and financial planning machinations LGBTQ couples had to take before the U.S. Supreme Court’s ruling in U.S. v. Windsor and the subsequent IRS ruling 2013-17 that removed a lot of that complexity for legally married LGBTQ couples, and especially those in \”friendly\” states. Tap here to read the beginning of this important 4-part series. FIVE. Rounding out our top 5 is “The Money Talk.” Recently, a relative became engaged, which will likely happen with many couples next month on Valentine’s Day. As couples take this loving step, it’s critical to know and understand each other’s mindset as it relates to saving, spending, investing, charitable giving, and a host of other related issues. So before you say “yes” or consider putting a ring on it, consider having this conversation. So there you have it: The top interests of 2013 were about love, money, and justice. What else is there to be interested in, except a pair of good looking shoes, right?
A Letter and Recipe for Your Family\’s Long-Term Health

Dear Family, Friends, and Folks Like Me, Last weekend I was able to release my culinary skills on a lovely group of friends and it was so delightful, I thought I\’d write a letter capturing that theme. So, I’m writing to ask that you join me in promising not to take the path of so many of our elders in creating a disastrous family meal and that you follow a healthier recipe. A friend recently heard the term, “Sandwich Generation,” for the first time. He asked me if it was because our peers grew up with Wonder Bread. Smiling, I responded, “Not quite.” I explained that the term is not because of what we ate as kids but because of what many of us are experiencing as adults. If we step back and look at the generations of family to whom we are connected, most of us will have children, whether our own or nieces, nephews, or cousins, on one side and our parents or grandparents, and sometimes both on the other side. Accordingly, we will have loved ones looking to us for care and assistance from both sides. Considering “sandwiches,” if our loved ones are the bread, then what are we? Yes. We are the stuff in the middle – peanut butter and jelly, roast beef, turkey – and because some of our elders didn’t understand or didn’t receive lessons on how to prepare a healthy, life-sustaining, family meal, many of us are starting to feel more like seamy meat-by-product instead of the tasty Portobello mushroom. So, Dear Family, Friends, and Folks Like Me, take a couple of seconds to jot down this recipe for a healthy family meal: Ingredients 1 lb of good health insurance, which may include long-term care insurance because, despite our denial, we will get old and most of us will live longer than anticipated 2 tbsps of life insurance: one for income replacement and the other for bills and larger items that must be or should be paid, such as mortgages and college educations 2-4 gallons of consistent retirement savings – about 1 cup per year 2 tbsps of powers of attorney: one for financial issues and one for healthcare issues; and 1 Will: so you can decide on who gets what and not the courts. Preparation Combine all of the above with 3-4 trusted and honorable fiduciaries, covered by a trust if you own a home, and stir occasionally with a very good financial planner and CPA. Cooking Time Then let sit for about a year, or taking it out more frequently to revisit growing family needs basis. Let’s make a conscious promise that instead of making our children feel like overdone and gamy sandwich meat, we show them that they are part of a healthy, hearty stew from which everyone can benefit and be satisfied in the long run. A votre sante! Max
The Silver Tsunami Silver Lining, Pt 2: It\’s Never Too Late

Last week’s article described The Silver Tsunami and found Grandma Jen in a funky situation: she had become the guardian of 2 girls, Taylor, and Michelle, with insufficient resources left by their parents. This week’s article discusses Jen\’s alternatives. ONE. Jen needs to make sure that she has solid plans in place to provide for herself because if she’s not doing well Taylor and Michelle probably won’t either. These circumstances and Jen’s age, 52, require an estate plan that includes the requisite powers of attorney and a revocable living trust, naming a successor trustee who could step into her shoes were she to become incapacitated. That successor trustee, who should also be Jen\’s property power of attorney agent, should be working with a highly qualified financial planner and CPA, to ensure Jen’s financial needs are met. Under her trust, she should have at least 2 subtrusts, perhaps more, for the children, leaving Jen as Trustee and designating the financial advisor as a successor co-trustee and a trusted friend who would act as a successor co-trustee and successor guardian of the estates of the 2 children. The trust and powers of attorney would help considerably. Yet, additional questions she must consider are complex with serious implications: Who should determine how much of her income should be spent on her care – the trustee, the agent under her property power of attorney, or the agent under her healthcare power of attorney? What if there is not enough to fund Jen’s long-term care and college education for both girls? TWO. Let’s just say that Jen is a healthy, strong, and vibrant 52. She’s also at the younger end of the Boomer generation with at least 13 – 15 years of earning potential left. Thus she must make the best of it. Since estate and financial planning overlap and yours truly works with a number of financial and tax professionals, a financial professional would likely tell Jen to max out her retirement plan contributions, defer taking Social Security until the payout is 100%, and be mindful of the resources needed for Taylor and Michelle for at least 7-9 years after Jen’s retirement. This is also where retirement withdrawal strategies come into play. Let’s also say Jen stays healthy, retires comfortably, the girls graduate college but one flies back to the nest for an indeterminate period, an “Echo Birdie.” Now, in retirement, Jen has an extra adult to feed and shelter, which means she is again incurring additional daily expenses. What would happen if Taylor became seriously ill or injured? Has she done even nominal planning to safeguard her grandmother’s resources? Does Jen have insurance on Taylor? Thus while Jen and her late husband had an estate plan, Chris and Chaz didn’t, which isn’t surprising because 70% of all Americans, including Baby Boomers, haven’t planned or planned adequately for regular situations, not to mention the Silver Tsunami. This is just yet one more example of why estate planning is critical for the 99%rs. For recent information relevant to Baby Boomers, visit our Facebook page. The Silver Tsunami Silver Lining, Pt 1 | The Silver Tsunami Silver Lining, Pt 2
The Silver Tsunami Silver Lining, Pt 1: Minimizing the Wave

Recently, I shared a lovely dinner with a few friends and clients over a discussion about the “Silver Tsunami,” a phrase I’m sure you’ve heard bandied about over the last year of so. Still, just what is this “Silver Tsunami”? The “Silver” is related to the number of Baby Boomers, those of us born in 1946 through 1964, reaching retirement age daily. There’s a whopping 10,000 of us looking at 65 every day and that number isn’t decreasing for at least 10 years. The Silver Tsunami is the combined effect of factors caused by retiring Baby Boomers, the largest concentration of individuals reaching retirement age in U.S. history. The effects involve what happens when millions of people suddenly stop earning what they used to, are staring at potentially a longer lifespan than anyone anticipated, and because of the Great Recession or other factors may have or become non-spousal or partner dependents. But there is a silver lining to the Silver Tsunami and, given the current state of affairs of our government, this information is even more critical for Boomers and their children and parents. Most of us have dependents – minor children, grandchildren, very close nieces, nephews, or even very close minor children of dear friends. If we don’t, we probably have adult dependents. If we don’t have either, we just need to give it about 10 years or so. The point is the dependent wave is the precursor to the tsunami but this wave requires relatively simple preparation to ensure that it doesn’t morph into a tsunami. Chris and Charles’ story helps make the point: Chris and Charles decide to take a vacation without the children, Taylor and Michelle. Chris’s sister, Sarah, usually watches the kids but is working on a major project for her boss during their vacation, so Charles’s brother, James is watching them. The kids love James and he loves them, too, often lavishing them with Cheetohs, fruit punch, and snickers…for breakfast. Chris and Charles are driving along and POW! Pileup! Both sustain injuries that will require 6 months or more of surgeries and then therapy. So who’s going to care for the kids? Who will pay the mortgage? No one knows because Chris and Charles are both incapacitated and they failed to plan adequately. What could they have done to ensure the kids were cared for and the mortgage was paid while they were both unable to work? They could have had solid property powers of attorney, which would allow the right person – probably Sarah – to step into their shoes and help ensure their financial stability. In this case as in many, a property power of attorney isn\’t about helping someone out until death; it\’s about protecting what they\’ve got until they can get back on their very much alive feet. What about the money, though? Neither one will be working for at least 3 months. Any financial advisor worth his or her salt will tell you that’s why you must save at least 6 months of emergency living expenses while you’re also socking away your retirement. But let’s just say the money is there. What we don’t want is someone running away with the money, which is why choosing a trustworthy power of attorney agent is critical. What if there were no siblings but only Chris’ parents left to care for the kids? Then the waves may come crashing down on the children and definitely on the parents’ retirement goals. A recent study indicates that approximately 2/3 of Baby Boomers are unsure about their retirement resources. If Chris and Charles were only survived by the girls and Chris’ parents – Rob and Jen, then Rob and Jen were, of course, going to care for Taylor and Michelle. However, that loving obligation could surely cause waves to crash against the retirement shores. Since estate planners love killing folks off to get our points across, for purposes of our story, let’s just say that Rob didn’t last long after Chris and Charles, so only Jen – age 52, Taylor age 6, and Michelle age 8 survive. Rob left Jen comfortable, but Chris and Charles, as mentioned earlier, had not planned adequately. They did what most young couples do, bought reciprocal life insurance policies with a death benefit of $50,000.00 each, naming Taylor and Michelle as contingent beneficiaries. At the time of their deaths, the projected cost of a college education for one child at Taylor’s age was $180,000.00 and the cost to raise one child to 18 years of age, $215,000.00. Accordingly Grandma Jen would need an additional $500,000.00 to see the girls through college. That\’s a tsunami headache. What can she do? The Silver Tsunami Silver Lining, Pt 1 | The Silver Tsunami Silver Lining, Pt 2
Infants, Stairwells & Burning a Million Dollars

Wealth preservation aka “asset protection” is slowly rising to the top of the mainstream American lexicon, much like estate planning did a couple of decades ago. However, though related, the 2 activities are quite different. A solid estate plan’s end goal is to ensure that your intended beneficiaries obtain what you intend for them in the most efficient and least adverse manner possible. Retirement and tax planning are a substantial part of the estate planning process but the primary beneficiary at the end of the game is someone else, not you. Conversely, a solid wealth preservation plan will ensure that you don’t go broke before, during, or after retirement and fulfill your intentions toward your beneficiaries, tying it into estate planning. But the primary beneficiary of wealth preservation is not someone else; the primary beneficiary is you. Estate planning and wealth preservation are technically linked because the core documents and the fiduciary roles are primarily the same. Both include trusts and, consequently, trustees. Both might even include a LLC. The fundamental distinction is jurisdictional, i.e., what law governs the trust. Typically the laws in states that have asset protection statutes and are referred to as Domestic Asset Protection Trusts (DAPTs) govern wealth preservation instruments whose jurisdiction is in the U.S. Instruments whose jurisdiction is outside the U.S. are governed by the laws, or lack thereof, in those particular countries and are known as “offshore” trusts. Now before you start getting all antsy with thoughts of tax evasion, let me squash that thought like a bug. The only way to ensure that one doesn’t incur Uncle Sam’s penalties is by being completely compliant with the U.S. tax code. Now before going too far into the different schools of thought surrounding DAPTs and offshore trusts, you may be thinking, “I don’t have a gazillion dollars, so this doesn’t apply to me.” But before I lose you to Facebook or an incoming text message – wait. If you live in America, you live in one of the most lawsuit crazed countries in the world. So while you may not have a gazillion dollars, consider the following stats: 99% of doctors in high risk specialties will be sued; 75% of doctors in low-risk practice areas will be sued; Every 6 minutes a child under the age of 5 is treated for an injury sustained on a residential stairwell; In 2012, a woman was awarded about $833,000 for an injury sustained on her landlord\’s property ; Over a 10-year period, 15-21 lawsuits were filed per 100 architect firms; I won’t mention lawyers, it’s a given, people hate us, think we have deep pockets, so they sue us. So if you know your liability insurance won’t cover a potential lawsuit or the cost of litigation in successfully defending an unscrupulous claimant, how comfortable are you holding a “fire sale”? If you’re not thrilled about selling your home and liquidating all of your assets, including your retirement portfolio, to settle a claim, then wealth preservation may be needed sooner rather than later. Then again, maybe you have a million dollars to burn…
Fact v. Fiction about Echo-Birdies

As couples mature and children grow less dependent, we start considering life without “the little birdies.” Often, at this stage, if a couple hasn’t created an estate plan or revisited it in years, they decide to continue postponing the initial visit or revisit. Especially if the children are in their late teens, near or in college, a couple or parent postpones this work thinking that planning with the children in mind is nearly over. However, articles and commercials abound about the return of the little birdies…indefinitely. What’s worse is that upon the return, the little birdies sometimes don’t contribute financially to the household maintenance but instead use resources without replenishing them. So I caution people who say to themselves, “Ahhh, she’s in grad school now; we can relax,” to think again, long and hard. Once the children are relatively independent, i.e., still maturing financially and emotionally, parents should revisit the following questions: What are our goals in 10 years and are we on track? What do we want to protect? How should we protect it? Revisiting the Goals If you own a home, you probably want to protect it. Yes, you may consider downsizing or changing geographic locales, but you’re still likely to want to protect ownership of your primary residence. Also, if your child has been accepted or is in the college application process, you’ll probably to want to protect the college education. You’ve saved and worked smartly with a CFP and CPA, and you don’t want to blow your child’s opportunity. Still, what if your child is brilliant or extremely talented and ears a full scholarship? Finally, how’s that retirement planning going? If you, your spouse, partner, or child experience a long-term illness, would you be able to manage financially without sacrificing retirement income? The Fiction v. Fact about Protecting Those Goals Place your home in trust. Fiction: It protects homes from creditors. Fact: Not necessarily. If a homeowner is Trustee of the house placed in trust, that homeowner’s creditors can place a lien on that trust. Even land trusts are permeable. Place education savings in a 529 account. Fiction: 529s are the only way to pay for your child’s education other than traditional savings. Fact: 529s are beneficial under certain circumstances. Other considerations are balancing the funding of this college savings account with saving for retirement. Again, what is your primary financial goal? Place retirement proceeds in a trust. Fiction: Naming a trust as beneficiary for retirement proceeds will reduce or eliminate tax burdens. Fact: Naming a trust as beneficiary for retirement proceeds may actually create undesired tax burdens depending on the retirement account requirements and the trust involved. It may also create problems when required distributions must be made. So putting off a visit or a revisit to an estate plan because the birdies have flown or are about to fly the coop, could be detrimental to future life stages for you and the birdies. Furthermore, if they come back, well, consider learning about landlord and tenant rights. That’s what my grandmother did!
80% Get It Wrong…

In the digital age, it\’s rare that potential clients haven\’t done research before contacting our firm. So, when speaking or meeting with them, it\’s important to hear what they\’ve found. Sometimes it\’s factually correct, but not for their case; sometimes it\’s factually incorrect with respect to their case; and often the pieces just don\’t fit together at all. So then I say, \”Think about this…\” And, as colleagues continue to criticize DIY services, as online legal documents services proceed with IPOs, and as folks continue to ask me to opine, I thought these few facts may be worth sharing:
Take 5: Planning for Parents with Jazz

Today, I was listening to one of my mother’s favorite tunes, “Lake Shore Drive,” by the late Art Porter, Jr. Enjoying the fact that she so loves this great sax melody reminded me of a client who recently came into my office. As we talked I was struck again by the fact that if it were not for the sacrifices made by parents, many of us would not have the good fortunes that we have today. Occasionally, individuals who understand this honour the sentiment by taking it to the next level with action. So listening today, I decided I’d pay it forward by providing 5 pieces of information you should have as you plan for your parents. The difficult conversation should, of course, have taken place. After that, you should determine the following: What the estimated amount of need-based government benefits your parents will receive by the time your plan is scheduled to start providing for you or them. This amount will determine how much you can provide for them if their assets plus their benefits is insufficient. Who are their primary physician(s), life insurance agents, and other key contact persons. If you don’t know them already, schedule time to have a small chat with each of these persons and put them on notice that your loved ones are protected not only by their services and products but also by you. Where your parents want to live in the event one or both become infirm and unable to tend to each others\’ basic needs, e.g., proper hygiene, nutritional maintenance, and medical treatments. Most folks say “my home,” unlike my mother, who sent me a link to her favourite cruise line. What their retirement and estate plans entail and if these plans reflect their current family and financial statuses. CAUTION! Sometimes parents don’t provide equally for siblings. This isn’t a smart parental move irrespective of the motivation, but it happens. So if you’re getting pushback, this may be the reason and may be a good time to try to avert a potential family feud. The nuances of how they handle finances. This may change over time but generally people are consistent in the way they manage their personal finances. For example, some folks are uncomfortable with less than $200 in their wallet; some withdraw cash from the bank at the beginning of the week that’s to last them until the next week; and some older individuals go a few times a week just because it gets them moving and, if it’s a local community branch, they get to see familiar faces. If you plan to provide for your parents and discuss these matters now, all parties will be more comfortable and less stressed-out when the time comes for you to supplement or provide them with income. Even if you aren’t sure that you’ll be able to assist your parents, this information is still valuable in case they just need your help.* Just like us, our elders generally relish their independence, so to lose some or all of that freedom can be kinda earth-shattering. If a loved one could make a possibly traumatizing situation for you less stressful, wouldn’t you want them to take the necessary steps to do so? I would. So take 5, play a little Art Porter – or The Stones – and sit down and listen, so you can pay it forward in the right key, when the time comes. As always, your thoughts and comments are welcome… *As seen in Crain\’s Chicago Business.
Thanks But No Thanks: The Benefits of Disclaiming Aunt Val\’s Gift

Occasionally, a person may receive a gift under a will or a trust that they think would be more appropriate for their descendants. In these situations – and if the trust is drafted appropriately – the person usually has a legal right to say, “Thanks, but no thanks,” to the gift. At that point, the gift then “passes” to the person’s descendant(s) or beneficiary(ies). This means that the law will consider that initial recipient dead, i.e., having “predeceased” the testator, with respect to that particular gift and, as a result, the proposed recipient’s descendants take the gift. Why would you disclaim a gift? You don’t need the gift but your descendants might. For example, if Grandpa passes away leaving his house to your father, but Dad has his own home and a retirement condo, Dad may decide that you – a young professional with student loans – may benefit from owning the home more than Dad. So, Dad says in a writing that appropriately describes the gift and is delivered to the appropriate party, “Thanks, but no thanks. I, Dad, am unequivocally and expressly refusing the house … bequeathed to me by my father …” Once Dad’s disclaimer is accepted, if you\’re the only child, then you get the house. If you have siblings, then, generally, you will need to determine with your siblings how best to divide the interest in the house. You can’t afford the responsibility. If you and your partner are urbane empty-nesters, perfectly content with your 2-bedroom city dwelling, do you want the 4-bedroom home in the suburbs that Aunt Val left you with all the maintenance and tax bills that come with it? Probably not. However, your adopted daughter who now has newborn twins and a 3-year-old could probably use the extra space. So you say in writing, “Thanks but no thanks” to Aunt Val’s lush suburban family home. You want to avoid creditors. If you refuse a gift, a creditor claim cannot attach to your interest in the gift because under the law you never had any interest in the gift once your disclaimer is accepted. However, the area of the law using disclaimers as a way to avoid creditors is rapidly closing this loophole, so creditor claim avoidance probably isn’t the most prudent use of this testamentary mechanism. Disclaimers, simple at first blush, are like most legal tools – devilish in the details. If you’re considering disclaiming a gift, below are a few points to discuss with your attorney: Whether or not the property will be completely yours if it is currently held in joint tenancy with you and 2 other tenants; The irrevocability of disclaiming; Your action to date regarding the interest in the property; and Tax implications, which should be considered sooner rather than later. In the world of wills, trusts, and estate planning, the intent of the testator is a cardinal rule. Yet, sometimes the intent of the testator and the needs of the heirs conflict. Using a disclaimer may help resolve that conflict.